TMI - Too Much Information

I have had the pleasure and the privilege of working with a number of clients this month in Europe, the Middle East and the USCAN region and my mind has been exercised by the topic of ‘TMI’. In other words: 'Too Much Information.' In a professional context what I mean by this is the scourge of 'over explaining'. As leaders, our role is to be an effective communicator, and the skills needed to do this effectively and consistently are significantly underestimated. Part of my role is to coach my clients to practise the skills in a relevant commercial context, and be willing to be scrutinised and challenged in a realistic (and safe) learning environment. What I have particularly noticed this month is the degree to which a simple, open question elicits a lengthy, somewhat irrelevant answer. The challenge is to say less - but mean more - because we live in an attention deficit business world, where most people aren’t listening most of the time.

How to get around this? 

 

1. Firstly, by being aware of what we do at the moment to respond to scrutiny, and to be curious about our ability to answer the question but nothing more. My view of communication is simple: lack of clarity in our answer reveals a lack of clarity in our thought process.
2. In addition, we need to truly listen to the question. Easier said than done for sure. What’s being asked? Are we listening to understand or listening to respond? Given the nature of the 2, 3 and 4 screen world that we all operate in, our ability to truly listen is under assault. These skills have gradually depleted over the past few years and most of us didn’t even notice.
3. Take a moment to gather our thoughts before replying. It’s not a race to answer fast. It’s far more important to answer effectively. Structure a crisp and concise answer, and then stop talking.
4. Seek feedback – but not by ending every answer with ‘does that make sense’? Why? Because what we’re really saying is ‘I don’t think I made any sense but I’m just checking’. Instead, look for the opportunity to get feedback at a later stage from colleagues who we trust to be constructive and candid with us. 

Remember the acronym TMI – we want to be memorable and effective to be the legacy of our communication; not instantly forgettable and somewhat frustrating for just going on and on and on. 

A great cue to stop now.