My perspective is that these types of questions (along with ‘do you know what I mean?’ amongst others) need to be removed from our vocabulary if our goal is to be impactful.
All it reveals is that we’re unsure and unconfident that our message has landed; and hence have developed this verbal habit to check that if what we suspect is true.
Instead, I suggest:
- Think before speaking. Articulating our internal thought process is one reason we feel the need to check what’s landed.
- Practise brevity using a narrative structure. This is the 3 section headings of our message which help organise the detail for relevance, logic and flow.
- Read the room. Look at the audience; that will reveal whether indeed, you have made sense.